14 Mar

Core Groups That Support You

Over the past month I have had two friends pass away, and although their physical passing hurts, the memories and stories will stick with me forever, and that is where I find solace. One was a close friend that I met through The Centurions, Ario Kiarash and the other was a work friend that I met working through TPD (Tucson Police Department) and AZCOPS (AZ Conference of Police and Sheriffs), Tim Clark. What I didn’t realize was how hard my mental state would take a hit and how “strong” I had to be. I realized at that moment that this is not something to go alone.

I rejoiced in the thought that I didn’t have to go about this grieving process alone and I’d have a buddy to share stories with to remember our friend.  It also occurred to me that I have no idea, unless they show it in their posture or face, how my friend was dealing with the loss.  In my mind, I was going to act in a way that supported my friend but allowed us our space to grieve, in our way. (read more of M Frame type relationship)

Just like I am sharing my thoughts with you through this article, I chose to be open and spread my love to my friends I shared in the grieving process.  I felt the love from my Core Support Group and reciprocated it back.  Just like a checking account, you have emotional debits and credits.  In times of need, you may debit more than you credit, and in this scenario, some people have more in the bank to give so to speak.  In a time of need that my preverbal bank account may be low, I know I’ll be able to call upon my Core Support Group to help.

At Ario’s service, it was standing room only.  I was amazed, but not surprised to see how many people loved this man and what he brought to this world, as I did.  Ario’s loved ones shared stories for an hour and a half, and everyone filled with love, admiration, sadness, joy and just about every other emotion. Ario lived a full life in 55 years. He made a huge impact on this world and left it in better shape than when he entered into it. Thank you, Ario for teaching me a strong lesson. Even in the afterlife, you’re still making this world a better place.  To my friends that are still grieving, I love and support you.

Throughout this process, I learned that my friends, family, and co-workers were loving, caring, and thoughtful.  What else could I ask for in a relationship?  One friend, in particular, Jim Parks, was very close friends with Tim Clark.  I look up to Jim and see him as a father figure.  Jim and I are good friends, nay, we treat one another as a family.  It was hard to see Jim and his wife Barbara go through this.  As an empathetic person, I do not want any of my friends or family going through hard times.  One thing I did for them was hug them, let them know that I am here for them and touch base throughout the week via phone and text to show my love.  After a difficult day, between Tim’s service and work duties, I was drained.  I went to Jim’s house, and we watched Murder on the Orient Express.  Good movie, but what was even better, was their company!  It was exactly what I needed, and I hope I gave them a little something in return by being present with them in the moment.

There was one afternoon in particular that will stick with me for a long time.  Jim called me during work hours to say hello and see how I was doing. We had a brief 10-minute conversation flowing from “how are you” to him sharing some life lessons he learned over the years working as an officer and seeing hardship in spades.  This single act shaped the rest of my week, heck, my month. To me, this was a model of the way I will continue to act for others. What is 10 minutes’ worth to you?  How about the other person? How about a heartfelt hug and a whisper of I’m here for you?

Be there for your friends and your family! Even if you are not going through a hardship, take 10 minutes today to call someone you care about and let them know that.  Give someone you care about a hug and let them know that you appreciate them and care for them.  Show people by your actions, back up your words with actions.  These actions build credibility with your Core Support Group, whether it is your friends, co-workers or family.  If you debit this emotional account, you must be willing to make some credits as well.  Read more about Ario and Tim; they are wonderful souls that will live forever in each of us. Time to start living!

With Love,

-Adam Dellos


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07 Mar

Personal Fitness and Mental Health

Over the past month, I have geared my writing towards professional development and business learning points. Today, I’d like to touch on something more personal, physical and Mental Health by way of personal fitness and priorities.  If physical or mental health is not high on your priority list, I consider you to evaluate and reaffirm your current priorities.  This statement does not imply that your current set of priorities are off or wrong.  I challenge you to reflect on them and evaluate if they are still valid priorities, “Habit rules the unreflecting herd.” – William Wordsworth (1770-1850)

Physical health has two key components: What you are putting in your body (eating) and what you are doing to exercise or workout on a consistent basis.  Ask yourself, “When I wake up in the morning or retire for the evening, how do I physically feel?”  I challenge you to keep a journal or calendar book to keep track of this for the next 30 days.  You may be amazed at how much you are already doing to promote your physical health or realize you’re not doing enough.

My current regimen every day is at least 125 push-ups, at least 8,000 steps, 50 full sit-ups, five minutes of planks, and at least 45 squats with weight.  Here’s the key to what works for me, I’ve made it my ONE Thing (read ONE Thing article) to exercise throughout the day.  I do not wait to “have to go” to the gym to start.  Every morning I wake up and do 25 push-ups, answer a few emails and make some phone calls, then 25 more push-ups.  I work it into my day and do not let any daily circumstances knock me off my course.  If you choose, take my methods and map it to your own life to fit your needs.  The key word in this method is “sustainable.” You must create a workout or find a trainer that can create one for you, that is sustainable and achievable on the daily.  Nothing is more defeating than trying to achieve a goal that is ultimately unobtainable.  Start small, start simple and do it EVERY DAY. Do not wait until tomorrow, start now!

I have found that my energy levels are more consistent throughout the day because of my physical fitness.  Being physically fit makes everything easier; Work is easier, getting into my truck is easier, cleaning the house is easier and working out gets easier as well.  Another key component of my physical health is my eating habits. I have changed my lifestyle completely to align with the Ketogenic eating habits and intersperse Intermittent Fasting with it.

What I didn’t realize at the time was the direct correlation between physical health and mental health.  Once I committed to my personal ONE Thing on the daily, my mental health followed suit. Not only do I physically feel like I’m 19 again, I feel more present for every interaction that I encounter, daily.  I have clarity and a definite of purpose. Have you ever read “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill?  It is the first lesson in the book, Develop Definiteness of Purpose.

Mental health has many connotations and can be very subjective depending on who you engage in conversation.  Here it is defined by MentalHealth.gov.  I am referring to mental health in my article as emotional and social well-being; similarly to its definition by MentalHealth.gov.  I work on my emotional and social well-being every day consistently and positively, which builds momentum and becomes easier with time.  What I didn’t realize was: When I changed core habits and aligned my definite of purpose with my physical and mental health, there wasn’t much to “work on.”  Have you ever said to yourself, “I should workout today” or “I need work on X today, something seems off?” If you constantly struggle or battle to work on X, you may find yourself disenfranchised very quickly.

Fiercely protect your allotment of time for the things you love to do.  Make the time to exercise at least 30 minutes per day, or even work it in throughout your day if you loathe the gym. If you struggle or battle with X, write X down and then develop three things that you can do right now to remove the said blockage.  Once you set out to do something that you feel is important or is your ONE Thing, do not let anything or anyone veer you off course, to your best ability.  I urge you to consider this: Take these methods in stride and slowly work these principles into your life.  Sometimes the things you want to do requires a lifestyle change and creation of new habits, which is easier said than done. Motivation accompanied by action equals life-changing results.  As Nike says, “Just Do It!”

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28 Feb

Importance of Mentorship and Learning from One Another

In last week’s article on “Creating a Thriving Culture,” I touched on things that I’ve learned and read over the years to create and sustain a healthy culture in the workplace.  I’d like to expand on one specific trait that plays heavily into cultivating the said culture and sustaining it over the long haul.  Mentorship and leadership, in my opinion, is the key piece to a thriving culture.  Without one or both of those, you will have a culture that simply may not thrive and excel as one might like.  Another word for such a culture may be stagnant or complacent.

Every Tuesday we have a company meeting to discuss weekly marketing, sales, and service. Followed by an open floor to discuss any items that need attention from any employee.  It is important to have a strong moderator run the meeting as it could get out of hand having an open floor where anyone can talk about whatever they feel is important.  I noticed one of my key employees not contributing as he normally did.  He had a blank look on his face followed by a stone face without a smile.

I vividly remember this type of situation in the past with other members of my staff and had a whole conversation in my head, without saying a word to the person.  I’d tell myself stories and typically take my thoughts down a path of, “There is something wrong with me or the company. Therefore he doesn’t want to work here anymore.  Oh no, I’m going to lose a good person, etc.”  Eventually, I’d find myself so worked up that I wouldn’t say anything, or when I did say something, it came from a close-minded place.

Largely due to my reading of Multipliers and Crucial Accountability, as well as a few years of practice and a gut feeling, I knew something was off with my key employee based on his demeanor. When we concluded our meeting, I asked him to come to my office so that we may chat for a moment before his appointments.  I opened the conversation with, “Hey buddy; I noticed something was off, would you like to talk about what is on your mind?”

I had to do little to no coercing to get his truth out of him and on the floor to discuss what was going on in his head.  Long story short, he had an entire conversation in his head about how he was going to take care of an important project that was scheduled for tomorrow, but the client asked for part of the project to be done today.  We are two days ahead of schedule on this project and in my eyes, in good shape.  The conversation he had with himself was, “How am I going to get all this done today?” and “Why am I the only one that has to do all this work?”

Based on his current view, these justified thoughts took him down a path of creating his truth.  It became real to him, and he was about to act on those thoughts by jumping into action and getting the project done.  Although good for productivity, it was bad for his personal mental health and as a team member to take on all this work by himself without exploring other options first.  We spoke about some options and scenarios, priorities and logistics followed by a statement to him, that once it sank it, his demeanor changed immediately.  The statement was, “By you saying YES to what the client wanted; you said NO to you leading your co-workers.  You said NO to doing what you felt was a priority today.  You said NO to yourself just because a client asked you to do something.”

This train of thought derived from The ONE Thing book that I am reading and often reciting in my daily habits.  Be careful what you say YES to because you’re equally saying NO to something else.  On the flip side, when you say NO to something, think of all the things you can say YES to doing.  That is where priority meets opportunity, which is difficult to manage at times but can be very impactful in your daily life and ultimately your long-term success.

What this all comes down to is this.  I saw something was off with a friend, a co-worker and a person of influence in my life and I directly asked him about what was going on in his head.  From that starting point, I created a comfortable environment for us to talk and collaborate as a team to figure out whatever was on his mind.  This situation started with leadership but transpired into mentorship within moments.  On top of that, I learned something of value from him.

Ultimately, I learned that we need to have a system in place to monitor and manage these types of situations in the workplace.  As we grow and hire more people, it will be difficult to manage on a one-to-one level as we did in this situation.  By having Controls in place versus trying to be Controlling of the situations, we’ll create a more successful work environment with the highest morale!  I also learned how much this young man cares about his team and his profession.  He is exactly the kind of person that I look up to by his expression of quality work and drive to be the best person he can, in every situation he encounters.

Thank you, my friend, for teaching me something and allowing me to mentor you back to a smile as well as sharing some more options to get this project completed.

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21 Feb

Cultivating a Culture That Thrives

I have always been intrigued by people, cultures and people’s behavior inside of the said culture.  Back in 2006 when my company was a startup, the culture was easy to understand.  We had a perception of “every person should wear whichever hat is needed to get the job done,” it was also an “I want to learn everything I can as I work every day.”  What I realize now, more-so than ever is this culture type resulted in a set of goals that were effectively communicated and emphasized.  Furthermore, no one person, including myself as an owner should sabotage this culture knowingly or not.  What I mean by sabotage; having a common goal that changes too often or allows any exceptions to hurt the culture or goal. Essentially sticking to the “do it right the first time with the utmost quality, to your best ability,” with any task you were asked to perform.

After six years in business and multiple new hires, around 2012, it was noticeable that the culture shifted and was going through “growing pains.”  What I didn’t realize was: instead of being relentless in my efforts to keep a firm and united culture based on a set of goals, my focus was in other areas accomplishing tasks that did not tie directly back to my role, which was to uphold our culture and reinforce our set of goals to grow our business.  This created many frustrations on my behalf and my staff.  It also bled into our customers, which consequently lowered our income as well.  I changed the set of goals too often and complicated things more than need be, which caused internal conflict and led to non-congruent business operations and confusion.  Thankfully, due to our length of business tenure and wonderful customers, it was not a knock-out punch.

What I learned from all this and now have clarity on, is this.  When a set of goals are agreed upon and bought into from the members of the organization, coupled with a relentless adherence to a culture that you want to see and work in every day, can create the space for a company to grow exponentially.  It will produce happier customers, employees, and principles.  It becomes a family that you want to see every day because you love what you stand for personally and know the person to your left/right stand for the same or similar principles.  It creates trust and opens up unprecedented levels of communication and cooperation.  Through this new level of collaboration, I’ve included the opening statement from our newly created general business services brochure.  I add this not as a sales pitch. It’s to reflect our efforts as a collective brain-trust to produce the best quality work we are able, whether it is with computers or writing.  Let me know your thoughts on what you get out of this article and our opening statement. I’d like your feedback.

“Adam D Technology has been in business since 2006 and has spent these years perfecting our brand, service offerings, and creating high standards of quality control which previously did not exist in our industry.  Not only do we repair computers, we also provide a myriad of other services and strive to facilitate every need in the technical space.  We are a unique firm that takes pride in sharing our knowledge and expertise of technology and appreciate the importance of premium customer service.  Without this level of quality customer service we would not have a business, and it just so happens we’re also great with computers and wires. We challenge the current “standard of service” in technical support and believe our customers can feel invested in our solution process, leaving them truly satisfied that they’ve worked with Adam D Technology.

Let us be your number one resource and solution provider for any computer or technical problems you may have.”

The three books that helped lead me down this path of awareness are EntreLeadership by Dave Ramsey, Gung Ho! by Ken Blanchard and Crucial Accountability by Kerry Patterson and Joseph Grenny. Please check out these books if you have not read them already.  If you have read them, reread them, they’re great! -Said Tony the Tiger.


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